Comments for Axis of Fat

Comment on Why I don’t like the term ‘fat acceptance’ by Anon

Anon — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 11:26:00 +0000

When I’m asked, I say that I prefer HEALTH and QUALITY OF LIFE. I don’t care about conforming to what society thinks is beautiful, but I do care about my body being healthy to live a full and long life. That is what should be important and where the focus should be.

Comment on Online Dating (While Fat) by David

David — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 20:03:00 +0000

I tend to only use face shots, but at the same time I think I have the kind of face that clearly says “here be a fatty.”

Ironically, on general dating sites and apps I get “ew, fatty” comments and on fat-specific sites I’ve been told that I don’t look fat enough. And this is using the same photos!

Comment on A Fat Bride Survival Guide by Kristie Cunningham

Kristie Cunningham — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:10:00 +0000

Leigh, don’t be so sure you can’t afford a custom dress. If you can find a good, affordable seamstress (perhaps one that can sew anything, but isn’t eye-deep in the wedding trade and jacking up her prices), you might be surprised. When I got married (many years ago now), I went to a seamstress just to have some inexpensive bridesmaids’ dresses made. I figured I’d buy my dress, but she said, “So, what are you doing for your dress,” and kind of nudged me into discussing it. In the end, I had her make it, and I brought in pictures from the bridal magazines to show her what I liked. It ended up perfect. I loved it, it fit me like a glove, and all for $250. If you have someone in your family or friends network who can sew, maybe you could get it done for cost of materials. Don’t give up; you shouldn’t be sad on your wedding day because you’re not getting what you really wanted.

Comment on A Fat Bride Survival Guide by Leigh Miller

Leigh Miller — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 06:53:00 +0000

i was thinking of going to ebay for my dress, not the one where you show the pic but one of the ones that have their own pattern and you pick which one you want and then they make it according to your specifications, but i was nervous about doing that because i was afraid that even if i told them i have a 64 inch waist and a 45 inch bust that they would send me something with a 20 bust and a 42 inch waist or something. then i would be screwed. cause you cant let dresses out that much, without a heafty price. and my budget for the dress is $200 and my budget for any alterations is about the same if not less.

Comment on A Fat Bride Survival Guide by Leigh Miller

Leigh Miller — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 06:47:00 +0000

140 for your height is not fat at all. its actualy only 10 lbs from what medical professionals concider perfectly healthy. it bugs me to see normal girls who are perfectly healthy weight say they are fat or have other people say that. i think those girls should be thankful they are not fat. like me. i am what constitutes fat. i am 5’7″ and i weigh 295. that is fat.

Comment on A Fat Bride Survival Guide by Leigh Miller

Leigh Miller — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 06:39:00 +0000

ive never really concidered 14-16 a plus size. its more average in my oppinion. but i know im having a hard time with mine as i wear a 34-36 dress (now thats plus size lol) but the only bridal shop i can afford (davids bridal) only carries dresses up to size 30 so yeah its difficult.

Comment on A Fat Bride Survival Guide by Leigh Miller

Leigh Miller — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 05:53:00 +0000

i am supposed to get married in july of 2013 and im starting to get a bit depressed. i am a very large woman, so large in fact that there are no bridal stores that cary dresses even close to my size, and i dont have the money to have a seamstress make one from scratch for me. my first wedding with my ex husband i diddnt have a real wedding at all, and as much as i really wanted a wedding this time, i feel like just giving up on that dream and doing the same thing i did last time, just going to the court and signing the papers.
i just dont know what to do.

Comment on Online Dating (While Fat) by erinaree

erinaree — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 11:07:00 +0000

I’ve dipped in and out of the online dating pool, and am currently back in it. Right now, my MO is to post realistic photos of myself, including a full body shot. I choose the option of ‘body type’ which most fits my build, though I hate the word ‘curvy’ and would much prefer if there was a ‘fat’ choice. When a guy messages me, I usually try to make it clear early that I am fat and okay with it, and if he’s not this is his chance to get out. I usually put it a bit less blunt than that, but that’s the gist.

I don’t want to waste my time, or anyone else’s time. I’m not interested in ‘tricking’ someone into liking me and then having them feel uncomfortable when we meet because they don’t like fat people. That’s not helpful for me or them.

Comment on “Stop empowering fat people.” Wait, WHAT? by Bob

Bob — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:24:00 +0000

“So feeling good about yourself is unhealthy?”

no, being terribly overweight is unhealthy. i thought that bit was obvious.

Comment on Everyone can be an astrophysicist. by Chloe

Chloe — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 00:38:00 +0000

I’d love to become an astrophysicist but someone on another website said so many things that really upset me and made me lose faith in my ambition. I have so much passion for astronomy and astrophysics but someone on another website said that you need a horrendous amount of calculus qualifications and stuff.