Comments on: A Fat Bride Survival Guide http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html Fatting all over the place and looking fancy all the while. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 11:26:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Kristie Cunningham http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html/comment-page-3#comment-7266 Kristie Cunningham Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:10:00 +0000 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html#comment-7266  Leigh, don't be so sure you can't afford a custom dress.  If you can find a good, affordable seamstress (perhaps one that can sew anything, but isn't eye-deep in the wedding trade and jacking up her prices), you might be surprised.  When I got married (many years ago now), I went to a seamstress just to have some inexpensive bridesmaids' dresses made.  I figured I'd buy my dress, but she said, "So, what are you doing for your dress," and kind of nudged me into discussing it.  In the end, I had her make it, and I brought in pictures from the bridal magazines to show her what I liked.  It ended up perfect.  I loved it, it fit me like a glove, and all for $250.  If you have someone in your family or friends network who can sew, maybe you could get it done for cost of materials.  Don't give up; you shouldn't be sad on your wedding day because you're not getting what you really wanted.  Leigh, don’t be so sure you can’t afford a custom dress.  If you can find a good, affordable seamstress (perhaps one that can sew anything, but isn’t eye-deep in the wedding trade and jacking up her prices), you might be surprised.  When I got married (many years ago now), I went to a seamstress just to have some inexpensive bridesmaids’ dresses made.  I figured I’d buy my dress, but she said, “So, what are you doing for your dress,” and kind of nudged me into discussing it.  In the end, I had her make it, and I brought in pictures from the bridal magazines to show her what I liked.  It ended up perfect.  I loved it, it fit me like a glove, and all for $250.  If you have someone in your family or friends network who can sew, maybe you could get it done for cost of materials.  Don’t give up; you shouldn’t be sad on your wedding day because you’re not getting what you really wanted.

]]> By: Leigh Miller http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html/comment-page-3#comment-7239 Leigh Miller Mon, 06 Feb 2012 06:53:00 +0000 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html#comment-7239 i was thinking of going to ebay for my dress, not the one where you show the pic but one of the ones that have their own pattern and you pick which one you want and then they make it according to your specifications, but i was nervous about doing that because i was afraid that even if i told them i have a 64 inch waist and a 45 inch bust that they would send me something with a 20 bust and a 42 inch waist or something. then i would be screwed. cause you cant let dresses out that much, without a heafty price. and my budget for the dress is $200 and my budget for any alterations is about the same if not less. i was thinking of going to ebay for my dress, not the one where you show the pic but one of the ones that have their own pattern and you pick which one you want and then they make it according to your specifications, but i was nervous about doing that because i was afraid that even if i told them i have a 64 inch waist and a 45 inch bust that they would send me something with a 20 bust and a 42 inch waist or something. then i would be screwed. cause you cant let dresses out that much, without a heafty price. and my budget for the dress is $200 and my budget for any alterations is about the same if not less.

]]> By: Leigh Miller http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html/comment-page-3#comment-7238 Leigh Miller Mon, 06 Feb 2012 06:47:00 +0000 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html#comment-7238 140 for your height is not fat at all. its actualy only 10 lbs from what medical professionals concider perfectly healthy. it bugs me to see normal girls who are perfectly healthy weight say they are fat or have other people say that. i think those girls should be thankful they are not fat. like me. i am what constitutes fat. i am 5'7" and i weigh 295. that is fat. 140 for your height is not fat at all. its actualy only 10 lbs from what medical professionals concider perfectly healthy. it bugs me to see normal girls who are perfectly healthy weight say they are fat or have other people say that. i think those girls should be thankful they are not fat. like me. i am what constitutes fat. i am 5’7″ and i weigh 295. that is fat.

]]> By: Leigh Miller http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html/comment-page-3#comment-7237 Leigh Miller Mon, 06 Feb 2012 06:39:00 +0000 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html#comment-7237 ive never really concidered 14-16 a plus size. its more average in my oppinion. but i know im having a hard time with mine as i wear a 34-36 dress (now thats plus size lol) but the only bridal shop i can afford (davids bridal) only carries dresses up to size 30 so yeah its difficult. ive never really concidered 14-16 a plus size. its more average in my oppinion. but i know im having a hard time with mine as i wear a 34-36 dress (now thats plus size lol) but the only bridal shop i can afford (davids bridal) only carries dresses up to size 30 so yeah its difficult.

]]> By: Leigh Miller http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html/comment-page-3#comment-7236 Leigh Miller Mon, 06 Feb 2012 05:53:00 +0000 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html#comment-7236 i am supposed to get married in july of 2013 and im starting to get a bit depressed. i am a very large woman, so large in fact that there are no bridal stores that cary dresses even close to my size, and i dont have the money to have a seamstress make one from scratch for me. my first wedding with my ex husband i diddnt have a real wedding at all, and as much as i really wanted a wedding this time, i feel like just giving up on that dream and doing the same thing i did last time, just going to the court and signing the papers. i just dont know what to do. i am supposed to get married in july of 2013 and im starting to get a bit depressed. i am a very large woman, so large in fact that there are no bridal stores that cary dresses even close to my size, and i dont have the money to have a seamstress make one from scratch for me. my first wedding with my ex husband i diddnt have a real wedding at all, and as much as i really wanted a wedding this time, i feel like just giving up on that dream and doing the same thing i did last time, just going to the court and signing the papers.
i just dont know what to do.

]]> By: heather http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html/comment-page-3#comment-7003 heather Sun, 29 Jan 2012 11:58:00 +0000 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html#comment-7003 I just found this post, and mostly, I just want to say good for you on how comfortable you were with the whole situation.  I am fat, and have been my whole adult life, and even before that as a normal-sized teenager, I was always told by my peers that I was a cow so I FELT like a cow, so I've never really known the feeling of being happy with yourself.  I am getting married in 4 months, and I am seriously struggling with the fact that, no two ways about it, I will be a fat bride.  I feel like the best I'm going to get is "she looks nice!" from everyone because I'm fat.  And now that it's like "OMG wedding coming up" it's harder to lose weight than ever.  I wish I could feel like you!  I will come back to this post in the future when I am feeling down, to try to remind myself what I should be focusing on. Also, thank you on the garter thing.  I have always hated the idea of this, never mind the fact that no garter out there would fit my leg!  I bought a cheap-ass one for a buck that my newly-minted husband can grab from somewhere, if we even do the garter at all. I just found this post, and mostly, I just want to say good for you on how comfortable you were with the whole situation.  I am fat, and have been my whole adult life, and even before that as a normal-sized teenager, I was always told by my peers that I was a cow so I FELT like a cow, so I’ve never really known the feeling of being happy with yourself.  I am getting married in 4 months, and I am seriously struggling with the fact that, no two ways about it, I will be a fat bride.  I feel like the best I’m going to get is “she looks nice!” from everyone because I’m fat.  And now that it’s like “OMG wedding coming up” it’s harder to lose weight than ever. 

I wish I could feel like you!  I will come back to this post in the future when I am feeling down, to try to remind myself what I should be focusing on.

Also, thank you on the garter thing.  I have always hated
the idea of this, never mind the fact that no garter out there would fit
my leg!  I bought a cheap-ass one for a buck that my newly-minted
husband can grab from somewhere, if we even do the garter at all.

]]> By: JMB http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html/comment-page-3#comment-6418 JMB Fri, 16 Dec 2011 21:36:00 +0000 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html#comment-6418 Thanks for this post. I'm a plus size and though I intend to lose weight, I'm doing it as motivation, not as ANYONE ELSE'S DAMN BUSINESS! You know what? My guy loves me for who I am and what I look like now. Putting a ring on my finger isn't a contractual obligation to shed 10, 20 or 100lbs for a day. I'm doing it because I want to be healthy, screw all those people! Thanks for this post. I’m a plus size and though I intend to lose weight, I’m doing it as motivation, not as ANYONE ELSE’S DAMN BUSINESS! You know what? My guy loves me for who I am and what I look like now. Putting a ring on my finger isn’t a contractual obligation to shed 10, 20 or 100lbs for a day. I’m doing it because I want to be healthy, screw all those people!

]]> By: Ice_princess_333 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html/comment-page-3#comment-6261 Ice_princess_333 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 22:12:00 +0000 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html#comment-6261 I kinda think you took an aggressive and overly defensive attitude... I would almost rather lose a little weight than have to go through all these arrangements to stay out of uncomfortable situations. If you feel great,(and you do look beautiful in your pictures), that's awesome. But, honestly, your super overly defensive attitude makes it seem like you aren't as confident as you claim to be. Also, fat and happy will never make you fat and healthy, no matter how many excuses you make. I kinda think you took an aggressive and overly defensive attitude… I would almost rather lose a little weight than have to go through all these arrangements to stay out of uncomfortable situations. If you feel great,(and you do look beautiful in your pictures), that’s awesome. But, honestly, your super overly defensive attitude makes it seem like you aren’t as confident as you claim to be. Also, fat and happy will never make you fat and healthy, no matter how many excuses you make.

]]> By: Queenazura http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html/comment-page-3#comment-2716 Queenazura Wed, 28 Sep 2011 21:36:00 +0000 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html#comment-2716 You look gorgeous. I love your dress! Thank you for your inspiring post. You look gorgeous. I love your dress! Thank you for your inspiring post.

]]> By: Thefluffyowl http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html/comment-page-3#comment-2674 Thefluffyowl Sun, 25 Sep 2011 19:39:00 +0000 http://www.axisoffat.com/2009/08/a-fat-bride-survival-guide.html#comment-2674 You look gorgeous! And I am bookmarking this page to help me when I start planning my wedding, I have been having so much anxiety about finding dresses and dealing with people's unsolicited advice. Thank you for posting this, and I love Offbeat Bride too!! :)  You look gorgeous! And I am bookmarking this page to help me when I start planning my wedding, I have been having so much anxiety about finding dresses and dealing with people’s unsolicited advice. Thank you for posting this, and I love Offbeat Bride too!! :)  

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